BE PERFECT AT YOUR OWN PERIL BY MYSTI PARKER~ GUEST POST IN GIVEAWAY….

MBA&M IS PROUD TO WELCOME……

Mysti Parker

AUTHOR OF

~HEARTS IN EXILE~

Hearts in ExileFINAL

So without further ado,welcome Mysti!

Be Perfect at Your Own Peril

“Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.”
― Anne Wilson Schaef

At any given day in the Parker household, you might see Pop Tart crumbs on the table. Yes, I’m that kind of mom. I am not an organic movement warrior. I’m more of a Kroger sale surfer.

My house—let’s not even go there. Seriously, call first, because the cleanliness level hovers somewhere between filthy and cluttered unless I’m expecting guests. Maybe I should have more guests…

Perfectionist? Nope, not me. I’ve struck out so many times in motherhood, like just a couple months ago when I threw away my youngest daughter’s test instead of signing it and placing it neatly in her backpack to return to class. I’m glad her teacher couldn’t see me blushing when she called to ask about it.

And there was the time I left the basement door open and the same daughter fell down the steps at about eight months old. Or the time…I really could go on and on.

But, I won’t, because I’m not a perfectionist. I am learning to let go of the impossible. It is, after all, impossible to be perfect. So why do we kill ourselves to be flawless?

Letting go of perfectionism doesn’t mean we become slackers or lose all ambition. Quite the opposite. It means we do our best and let go of the impossible. When we make mistakes, we pick up the pieces and carry on. We don’t set the bar so high that we can’t jump over it. We make realistic goals and accomplish them to the best of our ability.

Trust me; I still battle the perfectionism monster from time to time, especially with my writing. I have to make myself stop editing before I end up with a desperate-looking story with too much makeup and no date. I have to accept that my best is good enough so I can move on to something new. It’s the key to growth and improvement. Perfectionism does nothing but hold you rooted in place when all you really want to do is spread your wings and fly.

~Giveaway Question~

**Q& A: Do you battle perfectionism? What areas of your life could you let go of some expectations?**

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Profile Pic 2013_Bio:

Mysti Parker (pseudonym) is a full time wife, mother of three, and a writer. Her first novel, A Ranger’s Tale was published in January, 2011 by Melange Books, and the second in the fantasy romance series, Serenya’s Song, was published in April 2012. The highly anticipated third book, Hearts in Exile, has already received some great reviews. The Tallenmere series has been likened to Terry Goodkind’s ‘Sword of Truth’ series, but is probably closer to a spicy cross between Tolkien and Mercedes Lackey.

Mysti’s other writings have appeared in the anthologies Hearts of Tomorrow, Christmas Lites, and Christmas Lites II. Her flash fiction has appeared on the online magazine EveryDayFiction. She has also served as a class mentor in Writers Village University’s six week free course, F2K. 

Mysti reviews books for SQ Magazine, an online specfic publication, and is the proud owner of Unwritten, a blog voted #3 for eCollegeFinder’s Top Writing Blogs award. She resides in Buckner, KY with her husband and three children.

Contact the Author:

Blog: www.mystiparker.blogspot.com
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Mysti-Parker/103786449704221 

Twitter @MystiParker

Goodreads: http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/4625596.Mysti_Parker


A Ranger’s Tale, Tallenmere #1

Serenya’s Song, Tallenmere #2

Hearts in Exile, Tallenmere #3 (Available NOW at www.melange-books.com)

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Hearts in ExileFINAL~GIVEAWAY ALERT~

(Sponsored by the author)

Thanks to Mysti, we are offering  ONE e-copy (PDF, ePub, or Mobi) to one lucky commenter. *You MUST answer the question above,the author asked* ***Please tell us which format you would like your prize,if you should win of course.***

Giveaway will be open from June 4 until June 11,2013.

*Please leave a valid email address for notification purposes*

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We hope you have enjoyed our visit with Mysti Parker and will spread the word!

Thanks everyone and happy reading.

 

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19 Replies to “BE PERFECT AT YOUR OWN PERIL BY MYSTI PARKER~ GUEST POST IN GIVEAWAY….”

  1. I do battle perfectionism. In my writing mostly. I get so worried that it’s not good enough and it holds me back a lot, but I’m working on it, and It’s the best I can do for now.

    Jeannie

    1. That’s what we have to do, just keep at it, keep improving, but stop beating ourselves up about it. I’m so guilty of that. Some periods of time, it’s worse than others, but I’m (slowly) learning to let go and just grow.

  2. Third time I try to leave a comment…let me see if this works…hmmm is that sort of persevearance a struggle with perfection? GREAT POST I gave up the quest for perfection years ago, replaced it with absurd goals and become more and more realistic and accepting as I get older…20 days to 54!

    1. It’s never too late Cat!! 🙂 It really can hold you back, can’t it? I still struggle with it in some areas, like letting people see my messy house…yep, still have some work to do with that perfectionism monster.

  3. I’ve always tried to focus on what I can and have achieved and not what I did not or could not achieve. I think that is why I’m basically a happy person.

  4. Yes, I’m most definitely a perfectionist; but I make it work for me instead of against me. For instance, my mom was one of those spic and span type housekeepers, but I’m not; and that quality in me always drove her crazy. But it is my perfectionist tendencies that help make me a good editor, good at bookkeeping, and such. So as I said, I make it work for me. The format I would want would be mobi – that’s for kindle, right? My email address is in the form.

    1. That’s awesome, Jacqueline! My house: definitely NOT perfect, but for each book I’ve written so far, my editors have had a really easy job, so I guess that area of perfectionism has done me well 🙂

  5. Hello Mysti!! I do not believe in the term “perfect”. If you strive for perfection, then you will ALWAYS be let down. No one is perfect and no one can be perfect. Why strive for something when you know you will be let down every time? I just live each moment to the fullest and I never worry about the future because it has not happen yet. I prefer to be happy and enjoy life!!

    –DREW

    1. That’s a great attitude, Drew! I try to keep in mind a Bible verse, where Jesus said “Don’t worry about tomorrow; today has enough trouble of its own.”

      Very wise, that guy 🙂 And it’s so very true–we can’t be perfect. We do need to keep reaching for improvement and accomplishments, but lamenting that we’re not perfect gets us nowhere.

      1. What I meant was we, as humans, can still try to better ourselves in many ways but if we ONLY strive for perfection, then we may miss what we have accomplished in the mean time. I believe that the term “perfect” has the same null meaning as the term “normal”. Can you, as a person, say what is “normal” and what is not? Normal to one person, may not be normal to another. Same as with the term “perfect”. Can you say, definitely, what is “perfect” and what is “not”? Just something to think about. **Hint: look up the term “philosophy” ** I can talk forever about philosophy…Have a great day, Mysti!!

        1. I see what you mean, and yes, you’re right. We tend to judge ourselves by what we or society sees as “perfect” or “normal”, when instead, if we’re doing the best we can at any given time, then we’re as normal and perfect as we should be. 🙂

  6. Sorry. My format would be Mobi first then PDF. And My email addy is: andrew (dot) g (underscore) 2013 (at) yahoo (dot) com/

    –DREW

  7. I wouldn’t consider myself a perfectionist – except where my writing is concerned. I always feel it isn’t good enough even when people compliment me on it. I’m really trying to work on the self-confidence. I love your quote Mysti “.Perfectionism does nothing but hold you rooted in place when all you really want to do is spread your wings and fly”. I’m writing again and soon I hope to fly!

    1. So glad to hear it, Karen!! F2K just started up again, and I’m mentoring a classroom there. A lot of folks battle Self-Doubt. I have to send him packing on numerous occasions. He keeps finding ways to get back inside, and I keep shooing…a vicious cycle really.

      Best of luck to you and thanks so much for commenting!!

  8. In the fantasy world of Tallenmere, no one ever said love was easy…Serenya Crowe may be a half-elf commoner, but she's no ordinary woman.

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